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Mirena Coil….yes or no??

Who would’ve thought that contraception would be such a mine field.

I’m not sure what to do……

Apologies for the too much information that follows, but I need to explain why I’m at the not sure what to do stage….

I’ve been on the pill for 5 years, purely for contraception, with my long term partner. First few months with Cerazette, and then I was moved onto Cerelle, apparently the same but cheaper! At this point I should mention that neither me or my partner like condoms, but if it comes to that then we’ll get some and use them.

During the last 5 years I’ve had polyps and a cervical cancer scare, I was given the all clear a couple of years ago, fantastic!

So everything was fine, months of no bleeding, occasional spotting, until around 12 months ago when I started to bleed for three days a month. At the time I didn’t think anything of it, just dealt with it, but it became more frequent. Then around 4 months ago it got worse, I had one month with around 10 days of not bleeding. At the time I put it down to the stress of moving, but the next month wasn’t much better.

I had a pill check at my new doctors, (completely different to my previous ones who gave me a 12 month prescription, 6 months then, then 6 months without a check. My new doctors expect me to go for a pill check every 3 months), I explained that I was bleeding a lot and the nurse after asking a doctor, said it may be the stress of moving, but to book an appointment to see the doctor.

When I went to see the doctor, we discussed what was happening, and she suggested the Mirena Coil, as my pill obviously wasn’t playing fair and as I’m in my late 40’s I wouldn’t need to worry about contraception anymore. Now I’ve always been a bit wary of the coil, as my youngest nephew is the result of it, and it turns out so is a friend of mine, so I said I wasn’t sure. After doing a smear test, she wasn’t sure if she found another polyp of if it was scaring from a previous one, so she booked up appointments to see a gynaecologist and a scan. She gave me leaflets and sent me on my way.

The appointments arrived the day after each other, the scan being the second one.

The gynaecologist removed a couple of small polyps and took tissue samples, and sent me away after talking about Mirena Coil, Endometrial Ablation or Hysterectomy. The scan showed a small fibroid.

Now I know I don’t want to go down the hysterectomy route, that’s very drastic. The endometrial ablation sounds a little scary…..the scraped the longing of the womb away. Then there’s the coil……

I’ve been researching the coil, but mainly can only find horror stories, I presume its the age old, everyone is quick to complain, but never to say how good things are.

What do I do?? Do I stick with what I’m on and put up with the bleeding, see if they will give me an implant in my arm or do I go the Mirena Coil route??

Oh and did I say my follow up doctors appointment for all of this is Tuesday (this week)?


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……..actually gutted!!!!

I’ve always liked A-Ha, back in the 80’s at school, I remember being so so jealous of a girl in my class going to see them, a concert was the holy grail, A-Ha at the time was just, well, it was A-Ha!

I finally got my chance to see them last night at The Abbey – Cambridge United FC’s ground.  The bf was surprised that I’d not seen them before.

I love the venue, been there many time watching football over the years, that was great!

One of the Thompson Twins – Tom Bailey was the first support act……the songs were good, him singing them was shocking, he was so loud, we presume to make up for him not being able to sing.

OMD (Orchestral Manoeuvres in the Dark) were the final support, they were good, but I’m afraid I found an hour of them too much!

Then came A-Ha……..

All I can say is that Morten Harket has the stage precence of a wet lettuce……… He came on stage he sang, but that was it…..no dancing, moving to the  music, playing to the crowd……talking to the crowd…..  Quite late on he did a lets have a sing along, but that was dreadful.  The lovely Mags did the introductions, did the that part of the crowd sign, now this part of the crowd sing, but……..  Pal only came to life when Mags picked up a guitar, and they did a little bit together……Morten carried on doing his thing.

Don’t get me wrong, the band were fantastic, Mags and Pal were too, Mortens voice is amazing, but it was flat…………

Maybe Morten is ill. Maybe he has a bad back as he wasn’t really moving. We wondered if he was saving his voice, that he had a problem as he was not speaking to start with, but as they went through the set, we were proved wrong.  Or was it just pure arrogance, that he was the big star, that us as fans were just there to hero worship him (personally I always loved Mags), he was too important to interact with us very much.

It was a good gig, but I was disappointed……gutted……..I was so glad that I had only travelled 20miles to see them, that I hadn’t spent a lot of money on accommodaion and travel to see them.


UPDATE:  I’ve just heard from a friend who went with us to the concert……a guy who he works with took his wife to see A-Ha 25years ago…….apparently they were exactly the same back then…….no interaction with the fans………

I only have one question……

How have they survived touring??????


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The return of Queen Bee……

So the last 12 months in my office base (my job requires me to work out of other offices within the county as my work is countywide), have been quite nice…….within 2 hours, I am so ready to escape…….

12 months ago, a girl (I called Queen Bee)in the office went on maternity leave, I was so so happy at that point, not that she was having a baby (I don’t care too much for her), but that the bitchyness should subside…..it did eventually!

So Queen Bee seems to rule the roost at my depot, she has her legion of little followers that do actually seem to follow her everywhere.  Now I’ve worked from this office for many years – 15 or so, it used to be one day a week, because it was closer to home that my actual base at the time, this was until I changed jobs just 2.5 years ago, she has only been at this office around 5 years, but those last few years apart from the last one haven’t been so pleasant.

Let me set the scene…… 

She usually waltzes in at around 8am, you can hear her clonking down the corridor.  Says a very bright ‘Hello J’ to the depot manager, and promptly ignores everyone else, until her minions start to arrive.  Once they start appearing the noise level escalates big time, one particular person, is unbelievably load.

Now I have a little office (my cupboard) with two desks in just off of the main office, it’s always obvious that I am in because I put a blind up and the light is on, and often as I get in so early the radio is on, a few months after changing jobs I had the door put back on the cupboard (not sure why it had been removed in the first place), because of the noise level….I said it was so we had another meeting room at the time!  Up until 12 months ago, I regularly closed it.

The bitchyness was awful, they were so horrible to another lady ‘L’ in the office, someone who will do anything for anyone, who has the ultimate heart of gold, because they are obviously so superior to her, as she is the contractors admin person.  Their ‘little clic’ wasn’t plesant to be on the outside of it.  They used to forget I was in……  If anyone was leaving they didn’t bother to tell me when they knew it was someone, I knew, but when it was one of them, I had cards and leaving envelopes waved under my nose.

Once she had gone on maternity leave, the minions started to drift away and work elsewhere……..occasionally they would turn up, and be really nice…..they aren’t so much when she’s about.  It was great!

Today is Queen Bees first day back….

She waltzed in as predicted.  Did the ‘Hello J’ thing, ignored me and another couple of guys in the office.  Then the minions started to arrive……and the noise level has risen!  Now we (a few of us who spend a lot of time here) were hoping that she would be spending her time at a different location, as theres been a nice new chair ordered for her, but no, she’s turned up here…..the joys!

Maybe I am being synical and bitchy myself, but……..

I was the one who always used to go on the nights out…..it used to be any excuse and I was there, but due to these lovely people……especially her……I stopped.

I am so glad I’m not in my cupboard much the next couple of weeks……………

I do feel sorry for J & L though!!!!

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The big clothes clear out…..

So when I moved in with the bf, all my clothes were dumped in dustbin bags and abandoned in the spare room…..

I’ve now started going through them! What a nightmare!

Some are easy to get rid of….they’re too big! So it’s to my mum, M and the mil to see if they want anything, then it’s off to the charity shop with them!

Some I can’t part with as I’ve been given them by my mum and sister! Same goes for all my football, rugby, ballgowns and concert t-shirts….they’re being put in vacuum bags under the bed.

Hopefully next month I get a wardrobe and cupboards for them all. I am so looking forward to having everything in its place.

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Scary exciting……

Scary exciting is such a weird feeling……

Tuesday: Afternoon; Message from the bf saying that a bungalow was up for rent and not expensive! Evening: a little drive to have a quick look, but it’s dark! Email asking about kitchen as there is no worktops/cupboards showing in pictures.

Wednesday: After work have a look through the windows of bungalow, both of us like it. No real kitchen, but that’s workable with. Email asking for a viewing on Friday.

Thursday: Panic about what we’re looking at doing. Both of us still at home, have never needed to leave.

Friday: View bungalow, fall in love with it! Contact letting agents saying would like it, as soon as we got back to the bf (about 10mins after leaving the property. They said would send us paperwork for application after speaking to landlords. Tell parents (was quite scared telling mine!) My parents offered to buy us a washing machine if it goes through, the bfs parents offered to buy us a cooker. Bungalow is a blank canvas, with no real kitchen either.

Saturday: Still waiting to hear from letting agents.

Sunday: Letting agents closed.

Monday: Phoned letting agents around 9.10am (Thought I’d be nice and give the 10 mins to settle in for the week).  Apparently another couple have been and looked at the property, and they are first choice.  I said that we needed to know so we could start looking for something else, but the letting agent lady implied that we still had a chance, especially if she hadn’t heard back from the couple by the end of today……she knew who I was with out telling her, so fingers crossed….

Tuesday: Called letting agents….again! Had to get them to call back as they were busy. The girl I spoke to this time didn’t know that I hadn’t had an application form. She sent one through straight away, with was duly filled in and sent back this evening.

Wednesday: Received email saying that she’d got our application, but to let us know that they’d received one form another couple. An angry me fired off a polite email saying I was disappointed that we had been put in this situation as I’d phoned them immediately after viewing and again on Monday to chase, but didn’t get an application form until yesterday. About an hour later, received an email saying that the property is ours subject to the relevant checks…… Joint account set up this evening. BF getting very stressed and snappy about it all…..understandably!

Thursday: My turn to stress today. Had an email from the reference company saying they couldn’t get hold of my employer…not too helpful as I was at a conference thing….got it sorted though! I have a boss who’s amazing when it comes to sorting personal stuff quickly, but not so much with work stuff!!!

Not enjoying this waiting…….

Friday: The bfs references went back today….. Got a call about broadband etc, so figure they’re happy with references. Unfortunately the lady at the letting agents who’s dealing with this only works Monday to Friday 9am to 3pm, so we guess we won’t hear anything until Monday now.

Saturday: Looks like they are definitely happy with the bfs references, he’s had the broadband message! We’ve been looking at bits and pieces online such as fridge freezer and sofa. My m&d have all the bits stored from when they cleared my grandparents properties on both sides, so today’s mission is see what’s there, what we can use……

We found a few bits and pieces we want. Coffee table, Pyrex dishes and a cheat of draws.

Sunday: Nothing house related today.

Monday: Lady dealing with us at the letting agency isn’t in, but it sounds like we have it.

Tuesday: Nothing from letting agency. Started sorting my stuff…..

Wednesday: AM: Called letting agency, lady was off yesterday too. We’ve definitely got it she’s going to draw up the paperwork and send it through for us to look at. PM: Paperwork has arrived. Pick up keys on Tuesday. Fridge freezer ordered. Broadband and telephone sorted. TV licence sorted. Let rest of family know.

Eeekkkk……we’ve got a new home together!!!

Thursday: Phoned about insurance. M brought us a kettle!!

Friday: Taking the parents to look at washing machines this morning. This afternoon is cookers with the mil. Washing machine and cooker arriving on Thursday like the fridge freezer!

Saturday: Bits and bobs shopping today, that stuff that is mundane but essential like washing up bowls……

Sunday: My dad has given us a worktop for the kitchen, he had it lying around, never got around to using it. Started the sort out of the bfs stuff.

Monday: Bfs Birthday. Weather crap so did unplanned house stuff….got sofa, table display cabinet, ironing board washing up bowl.


Tuesday: Soooo excited!!! Picked up the keys to our new home this morning…..eeeeekkkkkk……. We figure we’re now proper adults as we have our own phone number, the bf said it’s the thinking about heating oil that does that!!   Had a proper lookaround…..picked up my parents and took them for a guided tour, the bfs parents arrived later….

Wednesday: Started moving some of the bf’s stuff in today……….got the bfs bro ‘D’ in to measure up for the small amount of kitchen we want installing.  Went kitchen shopping this afternoon.

Thursday: The furniture we got on Monday, the cooker, fridgefreezer and washing machine all arriving today.  Bf started putting together the kitchen cupboards.

Friday: Near disaster this morning, loaded the car up last night of more of the bf’s bits, Rosie decided that she wanted a little TLC…..she had a puncture, luckily the guy who does my tyres was able to sort it within 30 mins of me calling him. Went to my home, and starte4d putting clothes in dustbin bags, so that I can sort through them in our new home…..lots of tears from mum.  Dad put me up a new washing line, the one there was pretty dirty!  D decided to put in an appearance at 5pm to start building the kitchen, the bf was not happy, D left at 8pm!   Got a little excited, as we have now got cows in the field opposite us…….

Friday: Our first night in our new home…

Saturday: D arrived early this morning to do more of the kitchen.  Went food shopping after SlimmingWorld, and this afternoon I started sort through and washing up everything to be put in the kitchen cupboards.  Cooked our first meal tonight!

Sunday: Day off house stuff today…..trip to the annual Kit Car Show.

Monday: Bank Holiday!  Finished sorting the kitchen, started on my clothes…..I needed them for work!

It’s been a rollercoaster 4 weeks, and i will take us a while to get sorted, I still have stuff at my parents (seems strange saying that), the bf still has stuff at his parents too….but we have a kitchen, we have a living room and we can get to our bed……

We was sort of looking but not properly for somewhere, this place just came up and it’s perfect for us!

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What a difference a day makes…….

……..Friday I was enjoying the sunshine, a little walk in a vest top, a trip out in Daisy…..Rosie said it was 17degrees….in Cambridgeshire

…….Saturday it was horizontal snow at Silverstone Race Ciruit…walking around in a thermal top, jumper and ski jacket, and was just about warm……it was -1degrees out of the wind……

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Should’ve gone to Specsavers…….oh I did!

I couldn’t get an appointment with my usual opticians, within a reasonable time, but as I was getting headaches driving and when using the computer for work, I thought a month was too long to wait, so I ended up at Specsavers – as recommended by the MIL.

So it turns out that my eyes aren’t as good as I thought they were…..

When I left school and went to college I needed glasses because I couldn’t cope with the white boards after blackboards, but when I started work, I didn’t need them.

Now it turns out I need them for driving and reading/computers….

The reading side, I’ve always had everything from computers through to Kindle to phone on the smallest writing, I didn’t think I had a problem.  Now I’m a week in of wearing the glasses I struggle without them!

At the moment, I have a pair of glasses for driving and a pair for reading.  I’m beginning to understand why the optician suggested that I get varifocals.  The reason I didn’t was because I wanted to get used to the idea of wearing them first……  Tomorrow, I’m off to the opticians to see about getting varifocals, with react-to-light lenses, with scratch resistance too, I think that will be easier when it comes to things like Goodwood and Silverstone, where I will want glasses/sunglasses, but will need both the reading and distance. I’m thinking that I might get some driving sunglasses to live in the car too, as the react-to-light lenses won’t work in the car.

Having all different sorts of glasses also means that when I’m due for an eye test in 12 months’ time (I’m over 40 and my dad has glaucoma so every 12 months it is), I’ll have more idea what I want rather than all this indecision. I may not get on with the varifocals, but I might hence the react-to-light lenses, time will tell…….

All of my immediate family have glasses, Mum wears hers the least, and Dad the most due to his glaucoma, so I suppose it was inevitable that I would again too…..I’d hoped that I’d been missed out by the bad eye fairy!